Ask your partner these questions to find out how much they know about you and to discover together those things they need to know about the other.
Sometimes we think we know everything about our partner, or sometimes we think that our partner knows everything about us. However, as the saying goes “you never finish knowing someone.” Are you ready for this challenge as a couple?
The communication is a fundamental part of a good relationship. When we start a love relationship we get to know each other little by little and after a while we discover that we know in depth many things about each other.
However, many things are overlooked, that for the good of the couple it is good to know them. For example, we women love that men remember details that we once told them, because for us it was important to trust that.
Therefore, what we propose in this article is to carry out this questionnaire as a couple to see how much they know about each other and what things still need to be known. Not only will they have fun for a while, but they will put their memory to the test (although there may be a few complaints as well!)
The 20 questions to know who knows who the most
Ask your partner these questions to find out how much they know about you and to discover together those things they need to know about the other. They can answer simultaneously, or first answer one and then start over with the questions to answer the other.
1 What was the name of my best friend from childhood?
2 How old was I when I had my first pet?
3 What is my OCD or mania?
4 What can’t I stop doing before going to bed?
5 What is my weak point?
6 What part of my body does not make me feel comfortable?
7 What do I value the most in you?
8 How much importance do I place on physical appearance in a relationship?
9 I find a suitcase with money. What do you think I’m doing?
10 What do I do every day but don’t like to do?
11 What time did we meet?
12 What is my favorite movie?
13 What is my most special date?
14 What do I like most about our relationship?
15 What do I like least about our relationship?
16 What do I regret?
17 Would I forgive you for infidelity?
18 What do you think I would do if I had a lot of money?
19 What things make me cry or make me very sad?
20 Describe yourself and describe me in 3 words
And the results are …
With this questionnaire, two things may have happened: either they are proud to know each other so in depth, or they discovered that there are still many things to discover, work on and talk about. And either of the two options is valid.
This type of “games” as a couple lets us reveal everything we want the other to know about us. Knowledge in the couple is a powerful tool that we can use to love, care and give affection at all times.
Knowing their tastes, their hobbies, their sadness, their bad memories and even the name of the teacher of their childhood are small elements that add up when it comes to strengthening the relationship. When you bare your soul it is because you really feel comfortable with whoever is next to you.
When there are hidden things it is an alarm signal
Not all couples are open and frank when it comes to talking about their life. The reluctance imposed by one of the members of the couple may come from the fear of reproaches , or simply as a way of shielding themselves from certain issues.
For example: there are many people who do not like to talk about their privacy, family problems that occurred in their childhood, trauma or even the name of their first girlfriend or boyfriend. In this case, we can respect the silence or encourage the person to understand why this resistance to sharing certain things.
Many times we hear cases of couples who when they separate say “it was not the person I thought”, or “I was totally unaware of it after we got married.” Therefore, many simple questions can help us to know in depth the history of a person, as well as their way of thinking and acting in life.
Confession in love
It is important to listen to our partner when he is predisposed to tell something about his life that he had never told, or what he needs to vent. It is also nice to have those relaxed talks where the happy anecdotes of childhood and adolescence are remembered. Remembering them as a couple is enriching and adds a lot to the construction of the relationship.
Confessing with those we love is a pure and simple act where we bare our hearts and expose all our feelings, because we do not fear, and we trust. You don’t tell anyone your things, much less your fears, fantasies, hobbies or stormy memories.
Always keeping this communication bond open in the couple will make it always stand up. Whether they are beautiful memories, or things that need to be talked about in the present relationship, let us never stop looking into each other’s eyes and using the word to tell each other – with respect and affection – everything that needs to be heard.
Do not forget that the lack of communication raises a wall in the couple that ends up separating us. Let’s not listen just to answer; Let’s listen to the other to understand and help.
Ody Team is a qualified social media expert at Coding The Line, London. He had graduated from the University of Cambridge