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But can we limit ourselves to just fighting the big porn producers?

What do you know about sex? Where did you learn about it? From your parents? In health class? From movies? Magazines? Friends?

I’m sure you’ve noticed, but our culture is saturated in sex. We’ve grown up in it, but today’s middle schoolers and high schoolers are growing up in it even more. From their perspective sex is ok. It’s normal. It’s not really a secret anymore. If you don’t know what both the male and female private parts look like, then have you been living under a rock? It’s become almost impossible to be sheltered or innocent. Nearly every show, movie, music video, magazine and story has an underlying sexual tension that often comes to the surface either implicitly or explicitly. Sex is no longer taboo.

 

The problem is, the sex we see and know and are being sold isn’t really sex. Culture and media, in general, have taken the first rule out of the How to Make Good Porn 101 book and applied it to their stuff. Make it look good. Make it look better than it is. Sell it. Make it irresistible. Make it unattainable.

 

And so that’s what we have in our heads. Sex is rapturous. And if it isn’t we’re doing it wrong. You no longer have to be addicted to porn to have a skewed view of sex. You no longer have to have experienced hardcore porn videos to gain an unrealistic idea of intimacy. Because we have soft porn. And it’s leaked into our culture and media, and now it’s spreading. Watch a sex scene. It’s not hard to find one. Almost every TV show has got to have one every couple episodes, even if it’s short or cut off. Watch a music video. There’s plenty to pick from. Porn isn’t just something you accidentally stumble onto on the internet. It seems impossible to avoid.

 

The definition of porn is changing, and along with it, the definition of a porn addict. It’s no longer just someone who has to clear their browser history after a session. It’s no longer just someone who pays a couple bucks for a video on the internet. It’s people who will watch a movie rated PG-13 or R for nudity and sex, even when they know that they struggle with the thoughts it puts in their heads. It’s people who will watch a show and hope that each episode will go a little further than the last. It’s each those who think they understand sex from what they’ve seen on TV and are disappointed by the real thing.

As long as the media can keep their picture of sex and intimacy as more desirable and yet unattainable, they’ll never be able to make enough of their lies to satisfy the demand. The chemicals in our brains that are activated by that movie scene or that music video, will never be quite as excited when the sex of an almost stranger, or even a significant other doesn’t measure up to our overblown expectations. We’ll always need a little more, and we’ll keep searching and trying and experimenting without luck. Because it’s not there. It’s like reading about Jack and the Beanstalk and taking a road trip to find the giant beanstalk. You can’t, but everyone else around you is looking too, so it doesn’t seem foolish.

The definition of pornography is pretty simple. It’s the depiction or description of erotic behavior, designed to evoke an emotional reaction and sexual excitement. That’s from the dictionary. There’s a lot of our culture and media that fits into that definition of soft porn. But I think we can add to the definition. Porn, by definition, needs to be unattainable in real life, so that the only answer to porn is more porn.

Porn, and our understanding of sex, is evolving. And it’s not a good evolution. It’s killing love, hurting people, and making relationships more dangerous. It puts people in danger because sometimes people think it’s okay to not get consent. They don’t ask for consent in the movies. In movies, they don’t pursue the ultimate consent of marriage, or a relationship where you understand and love a person enough to put their needs and wants before your own. So how could you? How is your sex experience supposed to be like the ones on TV when you’re being careful, or when you wait until marriage? How are you supposed to have fun if you’ve never had a one night stand?

Even for people who are saving sex for marriage, this change in understanding can be damaging. Unrealistic desires and expectations put pressure and disappointed emptiness where there should be understanding and love. Everyone is nervous for the first time, their wedding night. That’s normal. But is that nervousness added to by feeling a pressure for it to be perfect? For a fear of if it isn’t what we expect?

Porn doesn’t just affect porn addicts. Porn isn’t staying on porn sites or magazines anymore. There have been growing movements against it, to try and fight the “new drug”. But can we limit ourselves to just fighting the big porn producers? Can we stop with trying to get rid of the “new drug” and leave the gateway drug out there?

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Because who actually “commits” in 2023?

As a millennial who is currently in college, I’ve noticed that dating isn’t how it used to be, like back in 1995. We are the generation that can’t live without our phones, are tech-savvy, and sadly, the ones who suck at dating.

This is not another bitter article because I “don’t have a man,” or I’m “jealous of what people have.” In fact, I am actually in a good place and I am speaking on behalf of what I’ve seen. I’m tired of my friends coming up to me crying because their “man-who-isn’t-really-their-man” isn’t acting right.

I’ve seen more friends with benefits and flings than relationships.

Maybe I’m different, but I can’t imagine just being around someone only to have sex. After a while, that gets extremely boring and if you have nothing else to offer, you just get “ghosted” instead of telling that person how you really feel.

See, in my opinion, that’s the problem with this generation. Sex is considered meaningless now and it is basically easy to get. With all of these dating apps swirling around, it’s almost impossible to avoid it. People would rather have meaningless sex than get to know a person and commit. It’s like every time the word “commitment” or “relationship” is brought up, that person runs away. But they’re so comfortable to have sex.

What really irritates me is that after two weeks, a lot of guys, in particular, get mad when a girl asks him to get rid of his “hoes” or “other girls he’s talking to,” but still expect a girl to drop their pants after talking to them for two hours.

That’s another thing too. Let’s talk about the “talking stage.”

So basically, by INFORMAL definition, the “talking stage” is basically when two people just TALK before dating. Did you make a face yet? Because that exists now.

But seriously, talking about WHAT honestly? Don’t you do that when you’re, I don’t know, DATING? And even during the talking stage, people still have sex, which makes no sense to me. You guys aren’t dating but you’re not dealing with anyone else. In fact, they’ll get mad when you’re hooking up with someone else. And when you start to catch feelings, it ends with “Oh, I’m not ready for a relationship right now.”

So what exactly are we doing then?

Wasting my time?

Imagine filling out a relationship status on a ballot or something and the options are “single,” “married,” “widowed,” or “we’re talking.” And no, that’s not what “it’s complicated” is for.

It’s sad because I feel as if this generation forgot how to love again. There are many people who are currently in relationships who are lucky. But for the rest of this generation, people would rather bang it out then talk it out. And people would rather “talk” than “date.” I mean, what’s wrong with both? If you’re happy with what you are doing, then do whatever you want girl! If you are in this situation and you’re unhappy, then what exactly do you want?

Attention is nice, but after a while, if that person isn’t really fulfilling your needs, what’s the point of being with them then?

 

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Love Island SPOILER: The singletons couple up as Maya Jama welcomes them to the villa

Love Island kicks off for a new series of Monday nights, with the new singletons coupling up into the first five pairs.

Fans will see the ten singletons move into the luxury villa in South Africa, with the boys seen arriving first.

New host Maya Jama gets stuck in, questioning the five hunks on their love lives, before telling them the girls will soon be making their entrance to pick which boy they want to couple up with.

 

Here we go! Love Island kicks off for a new series of Monday nights, with the new singletons coupling up into the first five pairs

Shaq and Haris arrive together, before welcoming Will, then Ron, then Kai to their sun-drenched new home.

Maya invites the boys to gather at the fire pit and quizzes them on what they’re looking for.

 

 

New host: Fans will see the ten singletons move into the luxury villa in South Africa, with the boys seen arriving first before new host Maya Jama makes her entrance

 

New host: Fans will see the ten singletons move into the luxury villa in South Africa, with the boys seen arriving first before new host Maya Jama makes her entrance

Maya asks: ‘Is everyone excited, be honest, how many press ups did we do this morning?’ Shaq answers: ‘I’d say at least 75.’

Maya asks: ‘Shaq, have you got a type?’ He says: ‘Not specifically, I go for more personality and vibes but she’s definitely got to be funny, funny is top of my list, I love it.’

Kai adds: ‘I am looking for a wifey,’ while Haris reveals: ‘I’ve never been in a relationship’

 

 

First arrivals: Shaq and Haris arrive together, before welcoming Will, then Ron, then Kai to their sun-drenched new home

 

First arrivals: Shaq and Haris arrive together, before welcoming Will, then Ron, then Kai to their sun-drenched new home

Ron says: ‘For me it’s all about if they are nice girl.’

Meanwhile farmer Will tells Maya: ‘I wanna settle down, I think it’s time to bring a girl back, introduce them to the animals.’

Maya then declares: ‘I think I’ve found out enough, are you lot ready to meet some girls?’

 

 

Inviting the boys to stand before her by the pool Maya then says: ‘Well boys, it is time to couple up, the girls will come in one by one and I’ll ask you to step forward if you fancy them.’

Grand entrance: As they're getting to know each other, Love Island's new host Maya Jama makes her entrance after an epic arrival by helicopter

 

Grand entrance: As they’re getting to know each other, Love Island’s new host Maya Jama makes her entrance after an epic arrival by helicopter

Getting the gossip: Maya invites the boys to gather at the fire pit and quizzes them on what they're looking for

 

Getting the gossip: Maya invites the boys to gather at the fire pit and quizzes them on what they’re looking for

Getting stuck in: Maya asks: 'Is everyone excited, be honest, how many press ups did we do this morning?'

 

Getting stuck in: Maya asks: ‘Is everyone excited, be honest, how many press ups did we do this morning?’

 

 

The big moment: Inviting the boys to stand before her by the pool Maya then says: 'Well boys, it is time to couple up

 

The big moment: Inviting the boys to stand before her by the pool Maya then says: ‘Well boys, it is time to couple up

‘Each girl will then decide which boy she wants to couple up with. It’s that simple. So who’s ready to meet our first girl?’

One by one Tanya, Anna-May, Lana, Olivia and Tanyel make their entrance into the Villa.

As the first coupling of the series gets underway, it’s time to see which boys the girls pick and whether they will step on each other’s toes to couple up with the boy they fancy the most.

Here come the girls: One by one Tanya, Anna-May, Lana, Olivia and Tanyel make their entrance into the Villa

 

As the first coupling of the series gets underway, it's time to see which boys the girls pick

 

Here come the girls: One by one Tanya, Anna-May, Lana, Olivia and Tanyel make their entrance into the Villa

Ready for love: 'Each girl will then decide which boy she wants to couple up with' Maya tells the ten new singletons

 

Ready for love: ‘Each girl will then decide which boy she wants to couple up with’ Maya tells the ten new singletons

Making an impression: The girls are dressed in their most sizzling bikinis for their first meeting with the boys

 

Making an impression: The girls are dressed in their most sizzling bikinis for their first meeting with the boys

It's getting hot out here: Lana and Tanya are seen deciding on which boy to pick

 

It's getting hot out here: Lana and Tanya are seen deciding on which boy to pick

 

It’s getting hot out here: Lana and Tanya are seen deciding on which boy to pick

 

 

Gorgeous: Michelle Keegan body double Olivia looks stunning in a hot pink bikini

 

Gorgeous: Michelle Keegan body double Olivia looks stunning in a hot pink bikini

Once the couples are formed, Maya says: ‘We now have five lovely couples but will you stay together or will your heads be turned?’

As Maya makes her exit from the Villa, she says: ‘Don’t forget finding your perfect match is never that simple, trust me I know.’

 

 

As night falls and the Islanders get to know each other a little better, it’s not long before news that the public have been voting for the first bombshell reaches the freshly formed couples.

On the lookout for love: The boys are tasked with stepping forward if they fancy a girl

 

As the first coupling of the series gets underway, it's time to see which boys the girls pick and whether they will step on each other's toes

 

On the lookout for love: The boys are tasked with stepping forward if they fancy a girl

Sun's out guns out: The boys strip down to shorts for their big moment in the first recoupling of the new series

 

Sun’s out guns out: The boys strip down to shorts for their big moment in the first recoupling of the new series

Take your pick: With five hunky singletons to choose from, the girls are spoilt for choice

 

Take your pick: With five hunky singletons to choose from, the girls are spoilt for choice

 

Take your pick: With five hunky singletons to choose from, the girls are spoilt for choice

 

 

Home sweet home: The Islanders will be calling this sprawling villa in South Africa home

 

Home sweet home: The Islanders will be calling this sprawling villa in South Africa home

 

LOVE ISLAND 2023: MEET THE CONTESTANTS

 

Tanya Manhenga

Name: Tanya Manhenga

 

 

Age: 22

Location: Liverpool

Occupation: Student and model

Something not many people know about her: ‘I have Vitiligo, which is a skin pigmentation, you may not even notice it.’

 

 

‘It’s on my lip and I have a stripe on my hair. Not many people know that but I think it’s quite cute.’

‘I don’t care about covering it up all the time, I think it’s a vibe.’

 

Lana Jenkins

Name: Lana Jenkins

 

 

Age: 25

Location: Luton

Occupation: Makeup artist

Something not many people know about her: ‘In my work as a makeup artist I’ve worked with lots of celebrities.

 

 

‘Also, when I was 6-years-old I used to live in Spain and I was in an episode of Benidorm as an extra.’

Anna-May Robey

 

Anna-May Robey

Name: Anna-May Robey

Age: 20

Location: Swansea

Occupation: Payroll assistant

Something not many people know about her: ‘I went on a date once and I never saw him again.’

‘We went for food and shared a bottle of wine. As I was speaking to him he fell asleep!’

‘I had to clink his wine glass to wake him up.’

Tanyel Revan

 

Tanyel Revan

Name: Tanyel Revan

Age: 26

 Location: North London

Occupation: Hair stylist

Something not many people know about her: ‘My celebrity crush is Channing Tatum – I don’t like pretty boys, they give me the ‘ick’ because they always have a crap personality.’

‘Channing Tatum is handsome but not too pretty. He’s manly and he can dance.’

‘If a man can dance I’m in love with him straight away.’

Olivia Hawkins

 

Olivia Hawkins

Name: Olivia Hawkins

Age: 27

 Location: Brighton

Occupation: Ring girl and actress

Something not many people know about her: ‘I did a film with Jason Statham and had a nice 10-minute convo about life.’

‘I’ve been a ring girl for KSI, I played a waitress in James Bond with Daniel Craig and I’ve also been a body double for Michelle Keegan and Emma Watson.’

 

Kai Fagan

 Name: Kai Fagan

Age: 24

Location: Manchester

Occupation: Science and PE teacher

Something not many people know about him: ‘I’m a Jamaican citizen. Because of that I played rugby 7s for Jamaica.’

‘I play semi-professional rugby now for Burnage RFC.’

‘I’ve technically got three different degrees and went to three different unis.’

Ron Hall

 

Ron Hall

 Name: Ron Hall

Age: 25

Location: Essex

Occupation: Financial advisor

Something not many people know about him: ‘On meeting me, you’d never know I am blind in one eye.’

‘It was the result of a football injury when I was 8. I’ve got two different coloured eyes, one blue and one green.’

Will Young

 

Will Young

 Name: Will Young

Age: 23

Location: Buckinghamshire

Occupation: Farmer

Something not many people know about him: ‘Every night I light a candle and meditate for 20-25 minutes.’

‘A girl I was seeing told me to meditate, I tried it and loved it. I stopped seeing her and carried on meditating!

‘It’s a nice way to self reflect.’

Shaq Muhammad

 

Shaq Muhammad

Name: Shaq Muhammad

Age: 24

 Location: London

Occupation: Airport security officer

Something not many people know about her: ‘I’m a very emotional person. It can be a blessing and a curse.’

‘Every time I watch Dear John I cry.

That’s my favourite film. Any time I’m with someone and they say, ‘Let’s watch a romantic film’, I’m like, ‘How about Dear John, how does that sound?’

Haris Namani

 

Haris Namani

Name: Haris Namani

Age: 21

 Location: Doncaster

Occupation: TV salesman

Something not many people know about her: ‘I’ve never found love. I think this is the show that can help me.’

‘It’s the best opportunity for me to find the girl and find the right one. I’ve obviously not found the right one myself.’

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