Regaining that person’s trust can be difficult … but not impossible.
Sandro and Sonia fell in love during their high school years. After college, they both found work. At 26, they had a stable life and decided to get married, so they consummated their marriage. But after more than ten years of almost perfect relationship, their marriage went through a period of crisis, which led Sonia to be unfaithful.
When Sandro found out what had happened, he decided to separate from her. Sonia insisted and Sandro thought that he could forget what happened, so, after living apart for a month, he decided to give him another chance. After three months they separated definitively because Sandro did not regain confidence in Sonia .
Loss of trust can spell the end of a relationship
Interpersonal relationships, especially love ones, can go through bad times, especially when one of the people has lost trust in the other.
In fact, both in friendship and relationship relationships, a lack of trust can lead to a total breakdown , since the degree of intimacy that existed between both actors can no longer be recovered.
9 tips to regain the trust of a person you care about
Sometimes we may regret something we have done that has caused the other person to stop trusting us . If you feel identified and want to regain the trust of that person who matters so much to you, follow these tips:
1. Admit your mistake
Obviously the other person has lost trust in you because you have done something wrong. So do n’t waste any more time trying to hide part of the story to make yourself look less bad . If you want the other person to regain trust in you, the first thing you should do is assume that you were wrong and that the fault is yours, at least partially.
2. Talk about what made you do it
Now that you’ve admitted your mistake, it ‘s time to talk about what made you do it . This way the other person may even understand you. It is common for us to behave defensively when we have relationship problems , and many times the solution was simply communication. Talking about your feelings and thoughts on the subject can make the other person reconsider, because they may also be partly to blame for what happened.
3. Be humble
Being humble is an important point in regaining someone’s trust , because if you get defensive, the conflict can get even bigger. Your goal is that you can talk about what happened and see you as a person who makes mistakes like any human being. So don’t let me see you as a bad person. In fact, you may even have to bite your tongue at first to get rid of the initial anger.
4. Be patient
If you want to regain someone’s trust, you need to let time pass and be patient . If that person who means so much to you feels betrayed by how you have behaved, you will need time for the wounds to heal. Don’t expect everything to go back to normal overnight.
5. Make noticeable changes
If you have managed to get the other person to give you another chance, it is time to make notable changes and show them that they were not wrong by trusting you again . Now is the time to express, not only in words but also in fact, how much you care about that person. This way he will not regret having forgiven you.
6. Regain communication
In point number 2 I have talked about the need to talk about the problem. But now is the time to talk about the relationship , to regain the communication that may have been lost. Knowing the expectations of both of you and talking openly about any topic is the best way to keep the relationship healthy. Remember that now it is easier for him to stop trusting you.
7. Don’t lie
And the reason it’s easier for them to stop trusting you is because you’ve given them reason to doubt. Now any lie will be seen as another great betrayal. So don’t play with fire and be honest. Otherwise you will suffer the consequences of your actions.
8. Become an open book
Not lying is fine, but if you have nothing to hide, why not show yourself as an open book? Think that now it is easier for you to have thoughts and suspicions (sometimes without foundation) that you may be lying. Do not hide conversations on your mobile phone or Facebook , let me see that you have nothing to hide.
9. Don’t ever make the same mistake again
If you’ve managed to get him to forgive you and trust you again, don’t ever make the same mistake again . Because if it is difficult to regain trust once lost, if you make the same mistake again, you better forget about that person. You can follow the advice you just read to get him to give you another chance, but he will rarely give you two chances for the same reason.