How to be more sociable and establish relationships that give us life? We explain it to you.

We all want to be that type of person who wins the hearts of others with a simple smile , who makes friends with little effort and who receives a lot of praise and praise every day.

However, this natural gift to connect with others is enjoyed by a privileged few who, for some reason, manage to have that special aura. The rest of us mortals may not have been born with that natural charisma, but with will and a little effort we can get to connect emotionally with anyone we want to meet.

Connecting emotionally with others: how to achieve it?

Many scholars and ordinary people have tried to explain why some people are more prone to connect emotionally with others, thus being able to better choose their romantic partners and even their friends. What are the qualities that make it nice to be next to a person? In today’s article we are going to try to describe these virtues.

When we think of people who know how to interact successfully with other individuals, we usually notice that they are capable of influencing the thoughts and attitudes of those around them, they are capable of inspiring them and making them get their best version. And oddly enough, all of these people share a set of values, beliefs, and habits .

9 values, beliefs and habits that will help you connect with people

The way of life of people who know how to relate effectively has some things in common that can serve as a guide to begin to evolve and improve in this regard.

Shall we start?

1. The smile always helps

When we are in a social context, the truth is that few things say more in your favor than showing you relaxed and with a smile . When we see someone smile authentically, it is very likely that we are attracted to him, or that it is for a friendship or to share an entertaining chat. Smiling at someone is also a great test of confidence.

In addition, smiles are contagious and make the people around you feel more comfortable . If you want to start a spontaneous conversation with someone, it is best to start with a good smile. Then you will decide where you want to take the interaction; If you just want a friendship or if you see that there may be something more.

2. Don’t be afraid to make friends

In the end, this is essential. If you want to connect emotionally with other people, you must be able to open up to others and build positive and healthy relationships . When you go to talk to someone, ask yourself the question: “How would I like someone unknown to treat me?”, And surely you will see very clearly that you must be respectful as well as genuine when you want to start talking with someone who, maybe, I can be your friend in the future.

It is important that you know how to  value friendship  and be careful and attentive with your friends. Practice  active listening with them, and try to help them out if possible.

3. See strangers as friends

If you walk into a waiting room or the subway, try to look at the faces of unfamiliar people and think of them as friendly faces . This will help you to have an open and proactive mindset, and to overcome your usual shyness or reluctance.

If you are in tune with the people around you, it will be much easier for you to connect emotionally with those who attract your attention the most.

4. Essential: be authentic

There is no use putting on a mask to connect with someone, because sooner or later the mask will fall and you will be portrayed. You should genuinely try to connect with other people, from your true self . That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to be more outgoing and open-minded, obviously!

Being authentic will bring you closer to meeting people with whom you can really connect, and forging friendships or courtships based on sincerity.

5. Try to help

Do not forget that the key to meeting people is to contribute something positive to their lives . It should not be something material, but something that can help them in one way or another. Normally, in our society we are very lacking in authentic friendships, of people in our life who can help us if we are going through a bad time or we have some difficulty.

There are always ways to help others, and it is a good idea to be a person with this human quality . Generosity is good in itself, but it also has a reward: it will be easier for you to connect with people who value your effort.

6. Take a genuine interest in others

The best way to be interesting is to show interest and attention towards your interlocutor . You sure have a lot to learn from other people. If you manage to open a window in their world, your interlocutors will see that you are a person with an open mind and with whom it is worth talking and spending time.

We all have stories we want to share, and if someone listens to us… it’s easier for us to connect emotionally with them.

7. Talk, don’t be shy

Be open and don’t hesitate to start conversations with people around you , and even with strangers. Having this attitude will allow you to improve your social skills and you will learn to connect with the passions and interests of others.

8. Get to know yourself and pursue your illusions

It is important that you know what your interests, your strengths and your goals are in life . Because knowing yourself will allow you to guide yourself and know how you can connect and help other people. If you find someone who shares your hobbies, it is very likely that the two of you are crazy for wanting to continue spending time together.

9. Be yourself

Yes, it is very typical advice. But it is still a truth like a temple. Trying to be someone else to please others is a big mistake. Show yourself as you are, even if you have flaws or vulnerabilities . No one is perfect, remind yourself often.

Ody Team

Ody Team is a qualified social media expert at Coding The Line, London. He had graduated from the University of Cambridge